Thursday, 27 November 2014

HOW DO YOU DEFINE SUCCESS?

How do you define success?

By your bank balance, the qualifications you possess, the friends you have?

I spent two or three years of my time at school being lead to believe that in order to be successful you must get a degree. You must spent three or four years studying for a qualification that will open more doors for you than your GCSE's ever will and even your A levels that you worked so tirelessly to achieve. Because money is more important than your happiness and apparently also your sanity. 

Because you're almost expected to make huge life decisions in your late teens. Decisions that you are forced to believe will impact the rest of your life.

I was mocked for being uncertain and for changing my career dreams at school. I was uncertain because it was drilled into my brain that what you choose to do now is what you'll have to do for the rest of your life. When I stated to several people from tutors to friends that I knew university was not for me I was told 'make sure you still apply' however, if someone knows that university is what they want to do they're not forced to look at employment if they change their mind.

Don't get me wrong I think university is great for a lot of people, lots of my friends are there now and are having the time of their life. All I'm saying is, a degree is not necessarily essential  in order to be successful. Obviously if you have a goal that requires a degree then go for it and do it because you want to, not because you feel it is expected of you.

Since being at college I have figured out how I would define 'being successful'. Being successful is being surrounded by people that never allow you to feel alone. Having friends that you can count on for anything. Being successful is never getting that 'Monday feeling' because you can't wait to get back to work doing something you enjoy every single day. For some, being successful is about what they own. I enjoy having nice things, especially if I've worked hard for them and I have some crazy things on my list of dream purchases. I'm not sure yet but maybe as you become successful your bank balance grows in equal measures.

I'm ready to prove that success is not measured by your qualifications or the amount of money you have, but how happy you are with the life you are living. If you aren't happy then it's your responsibility to change it.

How do you define success?
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Saturday, 22 November 2014

CHRISTMAS

Hi guys, today I popped to a garden centre with my family for lunch and a spot of shopping. I'm not sure why but I haven't really been in the Christmas spirit despite it being only a month or so until Christmas. I'm going to start writing the Christmas posts that I've had planned for the past few months! I'm also going to start my YouTube channel as soon as possible. I really want to do the Christmas tag this year so look out for that soon! I started feeling slightly more Christmassy whilst out today and I'm also hoping to take a couple of trips to London to see all the Christmas lights.


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Friday, 14 November 2014

TAKE ME OUT OF MY COMFORT ZONE

I'm full of fear, fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of embarrassment, and the list goes on. I hate it and no matter how hard I try I can't change it. I have a care free attitude when it comes to people's opinions of me but at the same time I care a hell of a lot.

I look back at things I did a few years ago such as riding a pony through the choppy sea in the pouring rain with not a care in the world, or when I used to take my dogs out on my own in huge open fields and not worry at all. I feel like I used to be fearless and now I'm fearful. Maybe as I've grown up and had to experience or hear of others' experiences my fears have grown. When things happen to people close to home it proves how real these things are.

I know that fear is a natural reaction to things that can put you in danger, I just feel like I'm allowing mine to consume my teenage years by constantly asking 'what if' and more times than not, deciding against doing something because 'what if'.

I want to travel, I want to do crazy and spontaneous things but at the moment I don't feel ready. A lot of people say that your teenage years are the best years of your life. You have very few responsibilities and there's really not a whole lot that you have to worry about.

I'm 18 years old, and at the moment I'm struggling to just push my fears aside and enjoy myself and just live in the moment. I over think everything and rather than doing it and worrying about any possible consequences later, I think about what could possibly go wrong, before hand, and then most of the time talk myself out of anything I may have wanted to do.

Since joining college I've met Lauri who does some really cool things, she's positive 100% of the time and is just generally a very nice human being. She's now become my 'life coach'. I've asked her to help me conquer my fears. Help me live in the moment. Help me by being by my side as I attempt to do things I've always been too scared to do. Things varying from small to large. We're planning a few things and I'm excited to start making some crazy memories with her.

I love that she reassures me that everything's ok and let's me know that I'm safe if I ever feel fearful, along with making me laugh hysterically all of the time. I'm ready to start living my life and doing things I've always dreamt of but been too scared to do.

I'm excited that I'll be recording every 'achievement' on my blog so look out for them within the coming months. Let's do this!
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Monday, 10 November 2014

HELLO NOVEMBER

Hi guys, it's been a while! I've been super super busy recently with college, working and other things. I just wanted to write a bit of an update too.

1. I got a distinction in my first college unit! I can't believe it and I'm so so happy. I didn't think there'd be any way that I would be able to get a distinction overall but this has given me a boost in confidence and I'm ready to work my butt off for it.

2. Lots and lots of Christmas orders. I work for my Mum's business which is a textile based business where we make various bags and items with fabric. As we're getting near Christmas the rush is kicking in and again I need to work my butt off to keep on track with the orders.

3. IT'S NOVEMBER! I love Autumn and Winter so much and Christmas is my favourite time of year. I can't believe how quickly October flew by but I'm proud of how many times I managed to post. There'll be Christmas and Winter related fashion posts etc. I'm super excited to write some Christmas posts because I've had the ideas for quite a few since the start of this year!

Thanks for reading and I'll see you really soon. Bye x
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